Although sexless marriages may appear on be on the outside to most people unhappy and un fulfilling - for many couples living this life this is not so. These couples have learnt how to stay happy/positive in a sexless marriage by finding other ways to be intimate with each other.Most of the time it is not a subconscious decision - over time couples find that their sex life begins to decline due to varying reasons such as routine, caring for children, working long hours and lost libido. For these couples their relationship may be totally fulfilling in every other way - but there just is no or very little physical intimacy by the way of sex.
Choose what you focus on,Recognize you are in control of where your mind's energy is spent. Make a determined effort to focus on positive things and don't allow yourself to dwell on negative emotions or thoughts. When you find yourself thinking negatively, come up with ways to redirect your thought patterns, e.g. by focusing on a goal, happy memory or something you are grateful for.Positive affirmations.Plant positive seeds in your mind's soil. Identify positive affirmations you want to believe, e.g., 'I have the power to change my circumstances' or 'I am a valuable person', and repeat them to yourself whenever you can. Soon, you will find yourself acting on what you allow yourself to believe.
Look for the positive in every situation.Lost your job? Perhaps your job loss will help you find the career you've always wanted. Been dumped by your boyfriend? Maybe you're better off without a boyfriend that doesn't appreciate you. Turn a negative into a positive and find the good in bad things that happen to you. Ask yourself what you can take from your bad experiences to turn them into events that make you stronger or a better person. Remember - we can't determine our circumstances, but we can determine how we react to them.
Knowing how to stay happy/positive in sexless marriage is very important if the relationship is to last - it is hard work but very possible. It does take a certain type of couple to be able to conquer this - but with perseverance and open communication anything is possible.If someone were to ask you, you would probably say that you were a pretty happy person. You try to keep a positive frame of mind and stay upbeat. It can be difficult, though, to maintain a positive mindset when you find yourself surrounded by negativity.Here are a few ways you can help keep your positive attitude whenever you look around and find that everyone else is being negative.
It's nothing personal.People can often get into the bad habit of talking negatively. It can be aimed directly at you or simply be about a myriad of other things that are going on in that person's life. It's hard to face an onslaught of negativity, especially when you are the target of it. But remember, that this is their issue, not yours. If their criticism is unfounded, you can be sure that the complaints are probably just a way for the person to vent. Take a breath, put on a smile and tell yourself, "It's not me, it's them."
Knock Out The Negative Noise.I had to keep telling myself that this was not the end. That this was NOT how my life was suppose to be. I had to knock out the negative noise that was in my head and focus on only the positive.Eventually things got a little better, then I got breast cancer. Talk about a blow to positive thinking! You start questioning yourself, "How can this be happening?" "Why Me?", "Is there any thing else you want to throw at me?"
Bring them a little positivity.What can you do to help turn their day around? It could be something small, like acknowledging a recent accomplishment. Bring them a snack from the vending machine. Even simply asking them how they are doing can help them to open up a little and get things off their chest. Do what you think would cheer you up on an off day. If you are met with an even bigger wave of negativity, just walk away. You know that you tried, and you can't win them all!
Two: Think of an opportunity to turn the bad situation into a good situation. For instance, I never thought of how many job opportunities there are on the internet until I lost all my money in the real estate market. Now I am climbing back to the top with my online home business. Albert Einstein said: "In the middle of every difficulty, lies opportunity.Three: Realize how bad you feel when you are having negative feelings. Is it really worth it? Now realize how awesome you feel and how beautiful life really looks when you are having positive feelings. It really is hard just to go from feeling bad to feeling good. The best way to change your feelings is to think of something that makes you happy and then go there in your mind.
What do you do to stay positive every day? Have you had to make some tough decisions about who stays and who goes? Let us know! The best way to secure future happiness is to be as happy as is rightfully possible today. Quote by, Charles W. Eliot,When life hands you a lemon, are you prepared to make lemonade? Try staying positive when everything around you is negative. It is essential for your health and well being. More importantly, the way you think, feel and act determines the outcome of your experience. So, why not make it a great experience by guiding your attitude toward one that is positive.
With the media always reporting doom and gloom all over the world, it is often difficult to see the good. So many times life puts you into such unexpected surroundings that must be dealt with to the best of your ability. It is never easy.However, your feelings and thoughts are what determine whether you get through the day by having a positive experience, or a negative one. Your attitude is the key. Positive thoughts, feelings and actions may help you through many stressful situations.When dealing with unexpected incidents, expressing a positive attitude would be more beneficial than a displaying a depressing one. Additionally, a positive attitude also initiates and builds up your confidence so that you can get through the difficult situation.
Choose what you focus on,Recognize you are in control of where your mind's energy is spent. Make a determined effort to focus on positive things and don't allow yourself to dwell on negative emotions or thoughts. When you find yourself thinking negatively, come up with ways to redirect your thought patterns, e.g. by focusing on a goal, happy memory or something you are grateful for.Positive affirmations.Plant positive seeds in your mind's soil. Identify positive affirmations you want to believe, e.g., 'I have the power to change my circumstances' or 'I am a valuable person', and repeat them to yourself whenever you can. Soon, you will find yourself acting on what you allow yourself to believe.
Look for the positive in every situation.Lost your job? Perhaps your job loss will help you find the career you've always wanted. Been dumped by your boyfriend? Maybe you're better off without a boyfriend that doesn't appreciate you. Turn a negative into a positive and find the good in bad things that happen to you. Ask yourself what you can take from your bad experiences to turn them into events that make you stronger or a better person. Remember - we can't determine our circumstances, but we can determine how we react to them.
Knowing how to stay happy/positive in sexless marriage is very important if the relationship is to last - it is hard work but very possible. It does take a certain type of couple to be able to conquer this - but with perseverance and open communication anything is possible.If someone were to ask you, you would probably say that you were a pretty happy person. You try to keep a positive frame of mind and stay upbeat. It can be difficult, though, to maintain a positive mindset when you find yourself surrounded by negativity.Here are a few ways you can help keep your positive attitude whenever you look around and find that everyone else is being negative.
It's nothing personal.People can often get into the bad habit of talking negatively. It can be aimed directly at you or simply be about a myriad of other things that are going on in that person's life. It's hard to face an onslaught of negativity, especially when you are the target of it. But remember, that this is their issue, not yours. If their criticism is unfounded, you can be sure that the complaints are probably just a way for the person to vent. Take a breath, put on a smile and tell yourself, "It's not me, it's them."
Knock Out The Negative Noise.I had to keep telling myself that this was not the end. That this was NOT how my life was suppose to be. I had to knock out the negative noise that was in my head and focus on only the positive.Eventually things got a little better, then I got breast cancer. Talk about a blow to positive thinking! You start questioning yourself, "How can this be happening?" "Why Me?", "Is there any thing else you want to throw at me?"
Bring them a little positivity.What can you do to help turn their day around? It could be something small, like acknowledging a recent accomplishment. Bring them a snack from the vending machine. Even simply asking them how they are doing can help them to open up a little and get things off their chest. Do what you think would cheer you up on an off day. If you are met with an even bigger wave of negativity, just walk away. You know that you tried, and you can't win them all!
Two: Think of an opportunity to turn the bad situation into a good situation. For instance, I never thought of how many job opportunities there are on the internet until I lost all my money in the real estate market. Now I am climbing back to the top with my online home business. Albert Einstein said: "In the middle of every difficulty, lies opportunity.Three: Realize how bad you feel when you are having negative feelings. Is it really worth it? Now realize how awesome you feel and how beautiful life really looks when you are having positive feelings. It really is hard just to go from feeling bad to feeling good. The best way to change your feelings is to think of something that makes you happy and then go there in your mind.
What do you do to stay positive every day? Have you had to make some tough decisions about who stays and who goes? Let us know! The best way to secure future happiness is to be as happy as is rightfully possible today. Quote by, Charles W. Eliot,When life hands you a lemon, are you prepared to make lemonade? Try staying positive when everything around you is negative. It is essential for your health and well being. More importantly, the way you think, feel and act determines the outcome of your experience. So, why not make it a great experience by guiding your attitude toward one that is positive.
With the media always reporting doom and gloom all over the world, it is often difficult to see the good. So many times life puts you into such unexpected surroundings that must be dealt with to the best of your ability. It is never easy.However, your feelings and thoughts are what determine whether you get through the day by having a positive experience, or a negative one. Your attitude is the key. Positive thoughts, feelings and actions may help you through many stressful situations.When dealing with unexpected incidents, expressing a positive attitude would be more beneficial than a displaying a depressing one. Additionally, a positive attitude also initiates and builds up your confidence so that you can get through the difficult situation.
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