During our day to day lives, we go from one task to another blissfully unaware of the strength of our subconsciousness. We also have very little understanding of how our actions, or lack thereof, are affecting our accomplishments. Or we may simply succumb to admitting that we simply don't have what it takes to accomplish our goal, whether the reason is having bad luck or bad skills. But is this really "the truth?"
With this type of thinking, very few people realize that their path to success is really being blocked by their subconscious self-sabotage. That's right; most people don't even know that it's their way of thinking that is hindering their chances of success - and nothing else.
To be able to relieve the problem of self-sabotage it's important to understand the role that fear and emotions play - especially when they are related to our actions. Finding the exact cause of any destructive behavior is the answer to being able to prevent it in the future. So how do you do this? Simple, learn from your failures and don't make the same mistakes twice. Why? Well if you can't identify the cause of the problem then how can you prevent it? But what exactly happens when we self-sabotage?
Often subconsciously, we may be frightened by a particular outcome, even though we say we want it. Take for example, losing weight. Many overweight people have struggled for years, tried diet after diet, and still can't lose the weight (or keep it off). They berate themselves, push themselves harder, and try to force the weight off. But what's happening beneath the surface? Do they really want to lose their excess pounds? They may say they do, but what if their layers of fat are providing a sense of protection and security in an uncertain world? What if they feel the need to cover up and conceal themselves? Losing weight then becomes a threatening, frightening possibility. So they might sabotage their diet efforts in order to avoid feeling too vulnerable and exposed. Even though they say they want to lose weight (and even believe they do) they still might set themselves up for failure by sneaking food, skipping exercise, and then making a promise that they'll try harder tomorrow.
Those who self-sabotage may also be afraid of what others will think of them should they accomplish their goals. They might not believe they're worthy of the outcome, so they act in ways that will ensure their failure. These destructive efforts are done subconsciously, so even the saboteurs have fooled themselves into thinking they know what they want. If there is any uncertainty in their mind, any doubt, any fear, they will find a way to make sure it doesn't happen. Perhaps this describes you? Have you sabotaged yourself in the past? Are you still doing it now? Are you not able to move forward with your goals, no matter how hard you try?
Fortunately, anyone can overcome self-sabotage. The most important step to stopping self-sabotaging behavior is to recognize that it's happening (and that's not always easy!) So what's required is to develop a conscious awareness of our thoughts, emotions, and actions.
You may have tried to accomplish something for a long time without success. If this is true, it may be time to stop and think for a while. Think back. What kind of setbacks and obstacles have you experienced? If you were to experience that right now, would another, perhaps wiser, choice be to enough to overcome that obstacle? Recognize the patterns; is there a certain type of obstacle that's constantly holding you back? Could it be that a certain fear is preventing you from succeeding? Ask yourself: "Why would I sabotage my ways to accomplishment?" This might be able to give you an answer to your problems.
When we become truly aware of our complete control of our actions and our success, we are released from our own chains and are able to explore a world where the sky is the limit. If we're able to lift the fog from our minds and become aware of what we want and what could be holding us back, then self-sabotage has essentially been eliminated. All the energy we were using to destroy and prevent our success will suddenly be used only towards our success. And that's a situation worth thinking about!
With this type of thinking, very few people realize that their path to success is really being blocked by their subconscious self-sabotage. That's right; most people don't even know that it's their way of thinking that is hindering their chances of success - and nothing else.
To be able to relieve the problem of self-sabotage it's important to understand the role that fear and emotions play - especially when they are related to our actions. Finding the exact cause of any destructive behavior is the answer to being able to prevent it in the future. So how do you do this? Simple, learn from your failures and don't make the same mistakes twice. Why? Well if you can't identify the cause of the problem then how can you prevent it? But what exactly happens when we self-sabotage?
Often subconsciously, we may be frightened by a particular outcome, even though we say we want it. Take for example, losing weight. Many overweight people have struggled for years, tried diet after diet, and still can't lose the weight (or keep it off). They berate themselves, push themselves harder, and try to force the weight off. But what's happening beneath the surface? Do they really want to lose their excess pounds? They may say they do, but what if their layers of fat are providing a sense of protection and security in an uncertain world? What if they feel the need to cover up and conceal themselves? Losing weight then becomes a threatening, frightening possibility. So they might sabotage their diet efforts in order to avoid feeling too vulnerable and exposed. Even though they say they want to lose weight (and even believe they do) they still might set themselves up for failure by sneaking food, skipping exercise, and then making a promise that they'll try harder tomorrow.
Those who self-sabotage may also be afraid of what others will think of them should they accomplish their goals. They might not believe they're worthy of the outcome, so they act in ways that will ensure their failure. These destructive efforts are done subconsciously, so even the saboteurs have fooled themselves into thinking they know what they want. If there is any uncertainty in their mind, any doubt, any fear, they will find a way to make sure it doesn't happen. Perhaps this describes you? Have you sabotaged yourself in the past? Are you still doing it now? Are you not able to move forward with your goals, no matter how hard you try?
Fortunately, anyone can overcome self-sabotage. The most important step to stopping self-sabotaging behavior is to recognize that it's happening (and that's not always easy!) So what's required is to develop a conscious awareness of our thoughts, emotions, and actions.
You may have tried to accomplish something for a long time without success. If this is true, it may be time to stop and think for a while. Think back. What kind of setbacks and obstacles have you experienced? If you were to experience that right now, would another, perhaps wiser, choice be to enough to overcome that obstacle? Recognize the patterns; is there a certain type of obstacle that's constantly holding you back? Could it be that a certain fear is preventing you from succeeding? Ask yourself: "Why would I sabotage my ways to accomplishment?" This might be able to give you an answer to your problems.
When we become truly aware of our complete control of our actions and our success, we are released from our own chains and are able to explore a world where the sky is the limit. If we're able to lift the fog from our minds and become aware of what we want and what could be holding us back, then self-sabotage has essentially been eliminated. All the energy we were using to destroy and prevent our success will suddenly be used only towards our success. And that's a situation worth thinking about!
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