Fear of public speaking -- it's more widespread than we suspect. My daughter, in fact, was an A student in college whose last required class was public speaking. She was so anxious about facing an audience she called me to say, "I may have to drop out of college; I just can't do this dad. Public speaking makes me physically ill."
On the first day of class I got into a class of kids who all appeared sane and public speaking anxiety free. I wished I had their confidence. As my luck would have it I was summoned to the front of the class to introduce myself to the class. I took a deep breath of confidence and went to the front of the class. Standing at the front of the class I felt fairly normal, but as soon as I opened my mouth that breath of confidence slipped right out.
Fear of public speaking? Gone. It was as if, she said, this fear had never existed.Public speaking class. We were to give a three to five minute speech about ourselves. They were OK, nothing to get excited about, and then Byron R.'s turn came. Since that April spring day I've heard many speeches, but I've never seen anyone as nervous as Byron, which was surprising to all of us because he was one of the school tough guys, or so we thought.
As I mentioned previously: you are not alone if the thought of speaking in public scares you. Giving a presentation is worrying for many people. As we saw before, presenting or speaking to an audience regularly tops the list in surveys of people's top fears - more than heights, flying or dying.As an illustration, I quote two popular sayings which feature in many presentations about giving presentations and public speaking:
On another occasion a few years later I was a member of a public speaking club that met weekly. We used up a lot of time that night discussing our annual party for spouses and friends we wanted to invite. The discussion finally came down to what beverages would be served. Coffee, of course, was on the agenda and why it took over a half hour merely to discuss coffee I'm about to tell you because what happened is another of those unforgettable images etched in my mind thanks to Mr. O.For nearly fifteen minutes he gave an impassioned speech about why we needed to rent special coffee urinals, instead of urns, and yes our budget was tight, but he felt so strongly that we needed to splurge and rent coffee urinals that well, we were laughing so hard, we let him go on and on about coffee urinals longer than decorum should have permitted. My ribs ached for a week and we're lucky no one laughed so hard an emergency vehicle had to be called to cart them off to the emergency room of the nearby local hospital.
You've probably heard this many times but why not take up several lines saying it again? A number of studies have shown that some people fear public speaking more than death, a fact I sincerely doubt, but that's what the studies say. Do you think the dead feel that way about public speaking when they're contacted by a relative on some psychic's radio or television show and have to answer questions albeit inside the psychic's head in front of a live national audience?My college speech professor, Mr. Plache, used to talk to us about what he called "the awkward phase of change." What's not easy in the beginning probably isn't supposed to be because, just like learning to ride a bicycle or drive a car, you have to go through the "awkward phase of change" before the activity becomes second nature and you become an old pro at it.
Explain to yourself why you are afraid."I am afraid because I think everyone will laugh at me." ,"I am afraid something will go wrong."Tell yourself why you shouldn't be afraid. "I have never seen a speaker get laughed off the stage.", "No one has ever laughed at me during my earlier presentations.","If something does go wrong, I can put it right."Close with positive thoughts about yourself."I am a intelligent and well-prepared person.","I can give a solid presentation and make a good impression on my audience."
Here are a few public speaking tips, and only a few of many, I've picked up throughout the years. There are basically four parts to a speech:The introduction. It should be tailored to the audience you're facing and each audience, in different cities, will not be the same as the one you've just spoken to. Your task is to create interest, from the beginning, so your audience will want to listen to what you're about to say. Your introductory remarks can help you establish a common ground with them and to, hopefully, gain their favor.Your specific purpose statement,short, sweet, brief; it's the road sign that tells your audience what this speech is about and why you're giving it. Like the center beam of a home, your specific purpose statement should be firmly planted and from it you build a logical framework for the central structure or body of your speech that's yet to come. Your specific purpose statement is designed "to build a bridge from the heart of your purpose to the little island of your audience's interests," is the way a writer once phrased it.
Have some cough lollies to warm and moisten your throat. When drinking before a speech: don't eat or drink dairy products; it often clogs up your voice. Drink only water at room temperature, it's better for your voice than cold water. And.don't try to calm your nerves with alcohol!Never apologise. Don't worry about missing a point - move on. The audience does not know what you have prepared and will not miss it. If they do, make light of it (laugh at your self) and correct it.Focus/concentrate on your message or idea- not how you communicate it. Don't start to think about the lady who is yawning. JRemember how you sometimes yawn even though you are interested and listening to a speaker.Remember: the audience is on your side. They want you to succeed. They want to enjoy themselves. All you have to do is DO IT!
REMEMBER,PUBLIC SPEAKING AND PRESENTATIONS ARE JUST ONE FORM OF COMMUNICATION AND YOU COMMUNICATE ALREADY EVERY DAY!You can do it!Would you like a more satisfying and rewarding life? Are you looking to get a great job? Or do you have important choices to make about your future? Then I invite you to explore this web site.I am passionate about helping people create and live rewarding, purposeful and happy lives. I offer practical and creative services to assist you in finding solutions for your career and personal wellbeing. I provide services that cover a great variety of issues and offer diverse range of approaches.
On the first day of class I got into a class of kids who all appeared sane and public speaking anxiety free. I wished I had their confidence. As my luck would have it I was summoned to the front of the class to introduce myself to the class. I took a deep breath of confidence and went to the front of the class. Standing at the front of the class I felt fairly normal, but as soon as I opened my mouth that breath of confidence slipped right out.
Fear of public speaking? Gone. It was as if, she said, this fear had never existed.Public speaking class. We were to give a three to five minute speech about ourselves. They were OK, nothing to get excited about, and then Byron R.'s turn came. Since that April spring day I've heard many speeches, but I've never seen anyone as nervous as Byron, which was surprising to all of us because he was one of the school tough guys, or so we thought.
As I mentioned previously: you are not alone if the thought of speaking in public scares you. Giving a presentation is worrying for many people. As we saw before, presenting or speaking to an audience regularly tops the list in surveys of people's top fears - more than heights, flying or dying.As an illustration, I quote two popular sayings which feature in many presentations about giving presentations and public speaking:
On another occasion a few years later I was a member of a public speaking club that met weekly. We used up a lot of time that night discussing our annual party for spouses and friends we wanted to invite. The discussion finally came down to what beverages would be served. Coffee, of course, was on the agenda and why it took over a half hour merely to discuss coffee I'm about to tell you because what happened is another of those unforgettable images etched in my mind thanks to Mr. O.For nearly fifteen minutes he gave an impassioned speech about why we needed to rent special coffee urinals, instead of urns, and yes our budget was tight, but he felt so strongly that we needed to splurge and rent coffee urinals that well, we were laughing so hard, we let him go on and on about coffee urinals longer than decorum should have permitted. My ribs ached for a week and we're lucky no one laughed so hard an emergency vehicle had to be called to cart them off to the emergency room of the nearby local hospital.
You've probably heard this many times but why not take up several lines saying it again? A number of studies have shown that some people fear public speaking more than death, a fact I sincerely doubt, but that's what the studies say. Do you think the dead feel that way about public speaking when they're contacted by a relative on some psychic's radio or television show and have to answer questions albeit inside the psychic's head in front of a live national audience?My college speech professor, Mr. Plache, used to talk to us about what he called "the awkward phase of change." What's not easy in the beginning probably isn't supposed to be because, just like learning to ride a bicycle or drive a car, you have to go through the "awkward phase of change" before the activity becomes second nature and you become an old pro at it.
Explain to yourself why you are afraid."I am afraid because I think everyone will laugh at me." ,"I am afraid something will go wrong."Tell yourself why you shouldn't be afraid. "I have never seen a speaker get laughed off the stage.", "No one has ever laughed at me during my earlier presentations.","If something does go wrong, I can put it right."Close with positive thoughts about yourself."I am a intelligent and well-prepared person.","I can give a solid presentation and make a good impression on my audience."
Here are a few public speaking tips, and only a few of many, I've picked up throughout the years. There are basically four parts to a speech:The introduction. It should be tailored to the audience you're facing and each audience, in different cities, will not be the same as the one you've just spoken to. Your task is to create interest, from the beginning, so your audience will want to listen to what you're about to say. Your introductory remarks can help you establish a common ground with them and to, hopefully, gain their favor.Your specific purpose statement,short, sweet, brief; it's the road sign that tells your audience what this speech is about and why you're giving it. Like the center beam of a home, your specific purpose statement should be firmly planted and from it you build a logical framework for the central structure or body of your speech that's yet to come. Your specific purpose statement is designed "to build a bridge from the heart of your purpose to the little island of your audience's interests," is the way a writer once phrased it.
Have some cough lollies to warm and moisten your throat. When drinking before a speech: don't eat or drink dairy products; it often clogs up your voice. Drink only water at room temperature, it's better for your voice than cold water. And.don't try to calm your nerves with alcohol!Never apologise. Don't worry about missing a point - move on. The audience does not know what you have prepared and will not miss it. If they do, make light of it (laugh at your self) and correct it.Focus/concentrate on your message or idea- not how you communicate it. Don't start to think about the lady who is yawning. JRemember how you sometimes yawn even though you are interested and listening to a speaker.Remember: the audience is on your side. They want you to succeed. They want to enjoy themselves. All you have to do is DO IT!
REMEMBER,PUBLIC SPEAKING AND PRESENTATIONS ARE JUST ONE FORM OF COMMUNICATION AND YOU COMMUNICATE ALREADY EVERY DAY!You can do it!Would you like a more satisfying and rewarding life? Are you looking to get a great job? Or do you have important choices to make about your future? Then I invite you to explore this web site.I am passionate about helping people create and live rewarding, purposeful and happy lives. I offer practical and creative services to assist you in finding solutions for your career and personal wellbeing. I provide services that cover a great variety of issues and offer diverse range of approaches.
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