Some Ways Of Overcoming Hurt And Pain

By Shirley Martin


Emotional pain is something that many of us, if not all have had to endure at one point or the other. The source of the hurt is often an intimate partner, a close relative or friend. The unfortunate thing is that when not dealt with, this feeling has the potential to destroy all the aspects of our lives. There are a number of things that we can to help us with overcoming hurt and pain.

Appreciate that the process of dealing with this problem require lots of patience and hard work. The good news is that it can be done regardless of how bad your emotional wounds feel. One of the first things that you need to do as you embark on the healing process is to settle down so as to avoid impulsive behavior that is often destructive. Walk away from the situation and give yourself time before making any response.

Take time to reflect on the situation. Let the events play out in your mind taking note of what role you and the other party played in creating the conflict. Ask yourself whether you responded appropriately in the situation and whether there is any different way you would have acted. In some cases, the feelings may become even deeper at this point in time. The important thing is to remain calm and to exercise restraint.

After the period of reflection you will be ready to meet the other individual. Many times, our hurt is the result of misinterpreting facts in spite of good intentions from them. Have a mindset that can readily accommodate divergent views so as to understand what it is they meant exactly. Getting a clarification means that you should be ready to listen.

Ensure that you avoid aggravating the strained relationship as much as possible. Getting too aggressive and argumentative is a sure of making the situation worse. Some people have the tendency of trying to force apologies. This is not advised since the apology is unlikely to be sincere. In the event that the person apologizes genuinely then you have to forgive them and move on.

In some situations, getting the opportunity to sort out the differences may be too difficult due to the hostility of the person involved or if getting to them is not practically possible. If you find yourself with such a challenge, there are still several other things that can be done. One of them is to shift focus and to think about the positives in our lives rather than the negatives.

It is important that you learn to take responsibility of hurtful situations. Placing the responsibility on another person gives them the power to determine the pattern of your feelings. It makes it more difficult to let go. On the other hand, when one is fully in control of the situation they can determine what they feel in the present and in future.

Sharing problems is a step towards solving them. Talk about your feelings to someone who is willing to listen. Venting will help in getting rid of negative energies that may have built up over time. In addition, your confidant will not only give you their perspective of the situation but they will also suggest solutions that can work best in your situation.




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