Simple Instructions On What To Consider When Dealing With Insecurities In A Relationship

By Janine Hughes


There are many concepts that can be understood worldwide but when it comes to love it is a whole different story. Once in a while a relationship must experience some form of insecurities. It is when it becomes too much that it is considered that that relationship might be on the ropes. This insecurities result into unnecessary anxiety. Provided that one steers themselves well when dealing with insecurities in a relationship, your marriage or engagement might just endure the storm and remain intact.

First the notion that the whole world revolves around your doorstep is one of the causes of insecurities. Self-centered behaviors result into trivial misunderstandings resulting into serious problems. When your partners refuse to eat, there are those who readily assume it might be an indirect criticism of their cooking probably.

Developing these thoughts can result in a communication breakdown between the two of you. At times one might approach the other on a confrontational stance. This only moves the situation from bad to worse. An advisable way to approach such situations is by discussing them in a very civil and sober manner with your partner.

Another way of going about this is by conversing with a family member or close friend. Getting a second unbiased opinion might just be what might make one see reason and get out of their unfounded insecurities. Even after getting reasonable advice as long as they keep idle, such thoughts will overcome reason and return them to the same situation.

There are those who spent the whole day trying to figure out exactly what their partner has on their mind. Burdening themselves with such thoughts only weighs their brain with unnecessary anxiety. This is followed by constant psychoanalysis that only worsens the situation. Every action or statement made by one partner shall be interpreted to mean something else. Everyone requires having their own privacy and space at times. Constantly inquiring on the exploits, unspoken thoughts or intentions of another can breed resentment.

Some of the signs of such a situation developing are when one hears the other saying that they need some space. In some cases your partner may ask you why you keep asking about their whereabouts after every few hour intervals. These insecure people tend to fill every moment that silence prevails with some words that they need not say.

Fear can arise out of one scared of undergoing rejection on the end of their relationship. Having this feelings are usually natural for any person. However thinking the worst of your situation does not make the situation any better and puts you in an unnecessary yoke. At times the main cause of the contention might be a really bad mood. There are several causes that might bring about a dampening in your moods.

It is usually advisable for those who were at a previously disastrous relationship to consider some time off before going into another one. There are times that the baggage carried from the past explodes and makes the person difficult to relate and communicate to. The affected individual is always living in the fear of being replicated the same thing in their marriage. This fear of the unknown makes you always suspicious of your partner resulting into a lot of friction between the two of you. If there is an issue that requires clarification for you to be satisfied, avoid confrontation but rather quietly approach your partner.




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