Seven Methods to Deal with Your Temper

By Hal Neff


Attaining a healthy, well-balanced frame of mind is essential to a rewarding lifestyle. However much too often , tempers gets the best of you and forces you to make hasty decisions that will otherwise seem outrageous.

Responding angrily to infuriating situations is expected. Nonetheless when your anger has a firm hold on you, all you will need is a small nudge to cross the line. A paper jam inside the printer, your husband's wandering eye, or noisy neighborhood children may all be factors to an unwanted outburst of temper.

The good thing is that you can beat your anger! You can find out different measures of stress relief! You can improve your relationship with your spouse and kids! And you will learn how to free yourself from the all-consuming anger that affects your daily decisions!

These techniques can help you conquer your rage:

1 . Detach from the situation. If you're in a position where your blood is beginning to boil, excuse yourself from the room. Grab a bottle of water, get some fresh air, or even call a friend to vent. Letting yourself a few minutes to strategize an amicable approach to the challenge may enable you to aim for diplomacy.

2 . Put yourself in his shoes. Relationship arguments can frequently get out of hand. Before you blurt out a vindictive phrase, consider his feelings. Even seemingly insignificant phrases, such as, "You're such a momma's boy, " or "You don't do anything for this family, " can pack a large punch.

* Seek an answer, not a debate. If he is a momma's boy, ask him to focus his attention on you and the kids. If he spends too much time on the golf course, tell him just how much you miss your regular date night.

3. Visualize the outcome. Giving your boss a piece of your mind may lead to being terminated. Biting your tongue could pose a challenge, but the security of a weekly income is well worth the work.

* If your employer is putting unneeded pressure upon you, professionally ask for more control over your duties by asserting the reasons you are a trustworthy employee.

4. Ask for help. If you are furious about a printer malfunction or not being able to unfreeze your laptop, just ask for assistance. Most people like to feel needed and asking for their experience in a specific area will not only boost their self-confidence, but will also provide you with a basic solution to your own challenge.

* Analyze their approach to the problem and remember the steps so that you can remedy the situation in the future.

5. Calmly explain your feelings. Take some time to compose yourself and think about what truly triggered the flame. Oftentimes, rage is a defensive mechanism to stop the world from knowing your feelings have been hurt. Remember, it's perfectly acceptable to be vulnerable. When you feel disrespected or hurt, you deserve to have the matter addressed.

6. Take the high road. Retaliation is a sign of immaturity. When a person has intentionally wronged you, they likely did so in order to squeeze a frantic response out of you. Show them that you're the reasonable party in the situation by being calm, cool, and collected.

7. Laugh it up. When you are annoyed, your body must exert energy. You normally default to exerting negative energy. But , negative reactions add more fuel to the fire. Diffuse the argument by laughing. Laughter allows you to expel energy, while internally easing your own frustration as the body identifies laughter as a sign of joy.

Finally, making sure that your responses are based on reason, instead of feelings, is the most effective method of handling rage. Emotionally detaching yourself from the situation at hand allows you to clear the smokescreen of personal resentment and concentrate on creating an amicable end result. Keep in mind, anger does not control you - you call the shots!




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