Relationships are difficult under the best of circumstances. But if there has been a serious breach such as an affair, it is even more difficult. The wronged party experiences a vast array of negative emotions, including depression, hurt and anger. But it's important to move past these emotions, especially the anger. Allowing it to fester will have a negative impact on all other relationships, including your friends, family, and coworkers. It is even harmful to your health.
Anger is not only a powerful emotion, it is a very dangerous one as it can become destructive. Combined with revenge, the results can be devastating. When held in comparison with depression, anger is much, much harder to get rid of.
You can do this in several ways.
1. Talking to someone about your feelings is one of the best ways, either with a trained professional, or with a close and discreet friend or family member.
1. You need to find someone to talk to, plain and simple. It could be a friend, it could be a counselor, or it could be someone from a support group. Maybe you could even speak to your local bartender. If you are a man, you might not feel comfortable talking about your feelings, but at some point you need to release the anger and talk through your problems. You will feel much better, and you can trust us when we say it will not make you less of a man.
By talking to someone, you will be able to clear your head and put your issues into a perspective that you can understand. The people you talk to can give you advice, but that doesn't mean you need to follow all of it. If you listen, you will see the advice you need to take, and apply it to your life.
3. While you are navigating these rough waters it's also important to take care of yourself physically. Eating right and getting the proper exercise will release endorphines that combat depression, as well as elevate your self-esteem and confidence.
3. Getting over anger can start with evaluating the reason why your wife actually cheated and accepting the situation. It is not about whose fault it is but what lessons can be taken from the situation.
Valuable lessons can be learned if you are objective about the incident. Keep in mind that she is, like you, an imperfect human being. She blew it. The important thing is she still loves you and wants this relationship to work.
Consider the circumstances. Was she feeling neglected, taken for granted? Was she working in a job that required lots of travel and lonely nights in a hotel room? What could or should be changed to continue with the relationship?
Moving forward means knowing there is a possibility of rebuilding a much better marriage than you had before your wife's affair. Or if not, having another relationship again that is better and happier than the one you previously had.
Anger is not only a powerful emotion, it is a very dangerous one as it can become destructive. Combined with revenge, the results can be devastating. When held in comparison with depression, anger is much, much harder to get rid of.
You can do this in several ways.
1. Talking to someone about your feelings is one of the best ways, either with a trained professional, or with a close and discreet friend or family member.
1. You need to find someone to talk to, plain and simple. It could be a friend, it could be a counselor, or it could be someone from a support group. Maybe you could even speak to your local bartender. If you are a man, you might not feel comfortable talking about your feelings, but at some point you need to release the anger and talk through your problems. You will feel much better, and you can trust us when we say it will not make you less of a man.
By talking to someone, you will be able to clear your head and put your issues into a perspective that you can understand. The people you talk to can give you advice, but that doesn't mean you need to follow all of it. If you listen, you will see the advice you need to take, and apply it to your life.
3. While you are navigating these rough waters it's also important to take care of yourself physically. Eating right and getting the proper exercise will release endorphines that combat depression, as well as elevate your self-esteem and confidence.
3. Getting over anger can start with evaluating the reason why your wife actually cheated and accepting the situation. It is not about whose fault it is but what lessons can be taken from the situation.
Valuable lessons can be learned if you are objective about the incident. Keep in mind that she is, like you, an imperfect human being. She blew it. The important thing is she still loves you and wants this relationship to work.
Consider the circumstances. Was she feeling neglected, taken for granted? Was she working in a job that required lots of travel and lonely nights in a hotel room? What could or should be changed to continue with the relationship?
Moving forward means knowing there is a possibility of rebuilding a much better marriage than you had before your wife's affair. Or if not, having another relationship again that is better and happier than the one you previously had.
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