Choosing To Stay With Professional Relationship Advice

By Christine Sanders


A human being is a mammal. Many mammals are social by nature, living in groups and raising families. Human beings are no different. Humans live in communities and, on occasion, fall in love with one another. But it does not always last. Sometimes, the feeling can fade. But those feelings can be resurrected with professional relationship advice.

Humans become intimate with one another. Some crave intimacy. Other people just to want to have sex. But then there are others who want the long haul stuff, the wedding, the honeymoon, the marriage, the kids. Of course, are biologically programmed to want kids because it helps continue the existence of the species as a whole.

But really should be careful what they wish for. Yes, children are a gift and hearing their cries for the first time after they enter the world is a beautiful, special moment. But children are also little monsters with unlimited amounts of energy who run, kick, and scream everywhere because they do not possess the necessary skills to communicate their thoughts eloquently. Keeping one alive requires a substantial investment of time and energy, and also money. As such, it can be easy to partners to lose sight of each other during the whole process of starting, and then raising, a family.

But there is more the fracturing of a relationship than simply losing sight of each other. When two people fall for each other, they become one couple. But they also remain separate people, with their own experiences and ideas and opinions. Now, sometimes those opinions can differ. Differing opinions may or may not lead to arguments. Now, if a couple argues and does not resolve it, the issue can bring about resentment, which can lead to a relationship fracturing.

But it is not just resentment and children that pull a romance apart. The seven year itch is a psychological phenomenon that states that satisfaction in a relationship dips after about seven years of being together. In fact, research shows that divorce generally happens after seven years of marriage, lending some truth of the concept of a seven year itch.

But sometimes, a couple just stops clicking with each other. Through no fault of anyone in the relationship or outside interference, partners just fall out of step with one another emotionally. Human beings change and grow constantly, and sometimes that change and growth is incompatible with the changer and growth of another person.

But of course, for all things, there is help. Some may pen a letter to an advice columnist. But those with any kind of sense will go to a therapist of some kind to work out issues.

But a therapist can only do so much. All they can do is offer advice. At the end of the day, it is up to the couple to consciously choose each other and work on themselves.

Love is a difficult thing to let die. With the right partner, it never has to. But keeping something alive can take a little bit of help.




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