The word "should" is an incredibly dangerous word.
There are major expectations that go along with the word "should." There are great amounts of suffering that attach to that word as well.
That word...can drive you mad or keep you stuck in the past.
Maybe you've said this before...
"That shouldn't have happened...this should have happened...it should have gone this way."
Truth is, it didn't go that way.
When you live in the world of "should" you aren't actually living in the present moment. You are living in the past or the future.
When the "should" you have exists in the past, you aren't able to come to terms with what happened because you want it to go a different way entirely. You can't accept the facts and you keep on thinking that it should have gone a completely different way. You see how dangerous this is?
Like in meditation, you have to come back.
When your "should" lives in the future, you are limiting yourself to a very shallow way of seeing into a land that is completely unknown and foreign to you. "It should happen like this." And if it doesn't? Usually there is a feeling of being let down or disappointed in what actually did happen.
You have to keep coming back to the present.
It's the painful experiences of life that cause us to try to lock our hearts away and project our experience onto the unknown. Truth is, the real magic of life comes when you decide to live in the mystery and forget trying to understand what's about to happen.
These dark times will always be there.
But endless suffering comes with being unable to accept the truth fully.
So you have to look at it like this - what happened happened and it couldn't have gone down any other way. q
And what happens when you let go of your past and your future and come back to the present moment?
What will happen...will happen...and it will be the most perfect thing for me.
"Should" doesn't exist in your life anymore and you live in the present.
No past.
No living in the future anymore because you are here in this moment.
Be here.
So stay in touch with the present moment and exist in the present.
Accept.
There are major expectations that go along with the word "should." There are great amounts of suffering that attach to that word as well.
That word...can drive you mad or keep you stuck in the past.
Maybe you've said this before...
"That shouldn't have happened...this should have happened...it should have gone this way."
Truth is, it didn't go that way.
When you live in the world of "should" you aren't actually living in the present moment. You are living in the past or the future.
When the "should" you have exists in the past, you aren't able to come to terms with what happened because you want it to go a different way entirely. You can't accept the facts and you keep on thinking that it should have gone a completely different way. You see how dangerous this is?
Like in meditation, you have to come back.
When your "should" lives in the future, you are limiting yourself to a very shallow way of seeing into a land that is completely unknown and foreign to you. "It should happen like this." And if it doesn't? Usually there is a feeling of being let down or disappointed in what actually did happen.
You have to keep coming back to the present.
It's the painful experiences of life that cause us to try to lock our hearts away and project our experience onto the unknown. Truth is, the real magic of life comes when you decide to live in the mystery and forget trying to understand what's about to happen.
These dark times will always be there.
But endless suffering comes with being unable to accept the truth fully.
So you have to look at it like this - what happened happened and it couldn't have gone down any other way. q
And what happens when you let go of your past and your future and come back to the present moment?
What will happen...will happen...and it will be the most perfect thing for me.
"Should" doesn't exist in your life anymore and you live in the present.
No past.
No living in the future anymore because you are here in this moment.
Be here.
So stay in touch with the present moment and exist in the present.
Accept.
About the Author:
Evan Sanders is a professional life coach at AYKME coaching. Dive into these great Bible Verses or these Hope Quotes to get some motivation to move forward!
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