The New Hero

By Evan Sanders

"A lion doesn't concern itself with the opinion of sheep." Game Of Thrones, George R.R. Martin

The world we live in can be tough to live in at times. While it does nurture us all, it's hard to ignore the fact that it can tear us apart at times.

But it isn't our world that is as vicious as the people who walk upon it. Every single time someone tries to rise there are thousands working against them to see that they fall. These individuals come out in hoards with the intent to sink their teeth into "the lights" back and tear him or her to shreds.

Unfortunately, our society is built upon trying to tear us apart from one another instead of bringing us together. We live in a day and age full of people who are able to hide behind their computer screens and comment on whatever they want without the consequences of saying it personally to ones face. The wolves run rampant in our world without much of an opposing force to quiet them down.

It's time for a new type of hero.

We need lions. Lions? Yes, men and women who are willing to root themselves firmly in their core values and principles and not compromise on them. We need individuals who are willing to stand for others greatness and live lives in such a way that inspire the hearts and minds of those around them.

When the lions rise from the darkness, we will have a great light in this world.

But why is this important?

Because as a society we have lost our ability to believe in anything. It's not really our fault that every single time someone comes up in the world they fall for one reason or another. But if we have someone who understands that they aren't perfect and who doesn't attempt to be, couldn't that change the game?

This isn't going to be easy for those who take on this challenge. The great victories and defeats of life build these individuals though. They are morphed by their failures of the past and their grand ambitions. These are the people we need to bring the best out in our world.

It's about time we had people in this world who are doing things for far more reasons than simply things that they want in life. It's time for the unselfish hero.

It's the time of the lion. It's time for the extraordinary.

Calling all new heroes.

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The Character Trait That Can Move Mountains

By Evan Sanders

A dose of encouragement could change the world.

We all need a confidant who can support us, encourage us, and bring us back into the light when we fall into the darkness. It's inevitable that we are going to fail from time to time, but with people around us who are willing to carry us when we are afraid to walk ourselves we can get back into the game. These supporters are those who believe in you and what you are capable of no matter what condition you are in.

Encouragement is the dose of support our world actually wants.

Encouragement is important. It's not motivation or inspiration, but instead it is about bringing in a little bit of light into peoples lives. If we can bring in some light to people who may not actually have a support system or who are completely lacking encouragement in their day to day lives, well, then aren't we living a good life ourselves?

We live in a world that focuses more on ripping others down than raising them up. Gossip floods the news and many pay to watch others get ripped to pieces. We like watching heroes fall who've risen to the highest of levels.

Maybe it's because we would like them to be back down at our level because we have not risen ourselves? Who really knows? But what I do know for certain is that we tend to need to bring darkness into peoples lives instead of light. That fact is pretty disturbing when you think about it long enough.

The world really needs some sort of change.

It's time to start promoting what we love instead of constantly bashing what we hate. Hate does not lead to the building of dreams, the raising up of people or the promotion of light. Hate only leads to more hate. We need a whole lot more love and encouragement.

Encourage others. Be a strong supporter of what is possible for them. The world needs your ability to support others.

Without it, we will continue the same old story that has been going on for generations.

It's time for something new and completely different. So take a stand for what you love instead of tearing down people who are trying to make a difference. Maybe that change will be exactly what we all need?

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Avoid The Pretty Wallpaper Of Life

By Evan Sanders

Appreciate the madness in real things.

If there's no uncertainty in your life, there's a complete lack of depth. Why? Because when you think you "no" everything that is going on you are not looking at what's actually happening in the world. There is so much that we do not see and do not understand, so to be at a place of "knowing" is actually at a place of ignorance. The true magic of life is diving into the depths of uncertainty, especially within your soul, and discovering what is truly possible for yourself that you didn't know you were capable of before.

Doubt? Embrace it.

We live in a world that is riddled with complete chaos. Everything is going so fast that it's a miracle we are even able to keep ourselves together. But if we slow down a bit we are able to tap into all of the direction, wisdom, and security we need. How? Because when we take a moment to stop and appreciate what is going on right now in this moment we can actually see what is here vs. what's always off in the future. We can check in with ourselves and much more easily tap into our relationships with others.

Surface level foundations never work - try building a home on wallpaper.

In order to truly develop, you have to get down to the foundational level and start building from there. If you always stay at the surface level, like I've said before, you continue to play with the wallpaper before the support beams are even built. Priorities matter when you are trying to make serious changes. Keep them straight.

But in real things (thoughts, feelings, experiences) that have some depth to them, they are not wallpaper in any way. They have some madness to them. They are not predictable, certain and they are almost always completely surprising. They rip the rug out from under you and help you pop right back up when you are down. It's a bit chaotic, but that is the point. The chaos is the attractive part. The chaos is the art. When you start to live in that place, your whole life becomes part of that painting. Then, when you begin to accept that you have a role to play in this world, you can begin to develop the faith driven hand of the painter.

But you have to build your foundations first.

Roll around in the dust. Get mud on your face. Tear down the wallpaper. Burn down the termite ridden support beams you have made throughout the years and dance in the ashes of it all. That rock solid ground you are standing on - that's going to be the location where you build your life. It's time to build it over again and do the work you have always been scared to do.

Don't survive. Thrive.

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Tapping Into The Greatest Secret Of Change

By Evan Sanders

The secret of change is to focus everything on creating what you can in the present, and letting yourself slip out of the past and the future.

But how can you do this?

First, I'm not talking about those simple changes that we can all make. I'm talking about the hard-hitting type of changes where you want to make tectonic shifts with your life. That type of change takes a completely different approach than what we are currently using. The change that lasts forever takes a methodology that spans over a lifetime.

The past will hold you down and the future will show you the greatest mirage of a place "where it all turns out." Both of these places are incredibly dangerous because they keep us from being in action in the present moment. Even though we can go there in our heads, we have to avoid living in these places at all costs.

Change isn't easy. In fact, change is incredibly difficult. To prove my point, did you know that 92% of people who make New Years Resolutions fail in accomplishing them? That number is astronomical. That number is so big that it makes you really want to ask the question "What in the world is broken with that type of thinking?"

So what can you do to make sure that you're successful?

When it comes down to it, it's actually pretty simple. Focus on one thing, every day, to make yourself a little bit better compared to the day before and do that for as long as you can. Don't get obsessive about the quantum leap where everything changes all at once - it is a lie. That's a "New Years Resolution" way of thinking. Instead, focus on the daily tasks you can perform and over a period of time you will change more than you could really ever imagine.

Start a successful journey of change today.

Do it now.

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Time To End Your Pursuit Of Happiness

By Evan Sanders

End your pursuit of happiness.


Honestly, happiness isn't something that just arrives at our front doorstep whenever we want it to. Happiness truly depends on the actions we take day after day.

I will say it again. End your pursuit of happiness.

Perhaps Hollywood, magazines, talk shows etc. would not like this idea that much because it would cut down on viewership if people actually followed through with this concept, but I'm going to say it again. End your pursuit of happiness.

So instead of being in this constant pursuit of happiness, come to find that a real sense of fulfillment and achievement in this world comes from going after our dreams and taking daily actions towards achieving them.

Happiness is absolutely a great thing to have in your life, but it's also something that's very fleeting like any other emotion. If you try to run after it directly, time and time again it will elude you. However, if you start to focus on building your dreams and seeing your goals come true, happiness seamlessly enters into your life. Isn't that interesting? Maybe we shouldn't be chasing happiness after all.

If we are continually growing, we feel that we are making progress in our lives and are therefore ok with how things are going. Nevertheless, aimlessly searching for an emotion that cannot be gripped onto like every other emotion we experience seems a bit hopeless in the first place. There has to be another way of doing things which will help us become more successful in life ultimately.

So give it a shot. Dive into the land of development and focus on growth instead of happiness.

Happiness is deeply connected to personal growth.

Food for thought.

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Shadow Work. It's Not As Sinister As It Sounds

By Evan Sanders

Spending times in the dark and murky places of your life is scary, painful, and troubling. On the other hand, it's something that is incredibly necessary if you want to start the process of healing yourself.

But why?

Because going into the shadows lets you heal deep-seeded pain, experiences and events you truly haven't come to terms with yet and emotions you've had tendency to avoid.

When you go into the shadows with compassion and love and actually attempt to understand the parts of you that could be experiencing discomfort you give yourself the chance to heal.

Wouldn't it feel incredible to live a life where you weren't constantly torn to pieces by what happened in the past and instead lived in the present moment? Wouldn't spending some time with your pains make that trip worthwhile?

But how?

The quickest way to get to the darkest shadows of your life is to enter into a state of meditation. Allow yourself to go back to the deepest and darkest places you can go to at that time, and sit in those places. Relive those moments and watch the emotions of your life swirl around you. Continue to breathe. Continue to stay in the moment as much as you can.

The major skill that you are looking to cultivate here is being able to live in this place - the shadows - and get close enough to the emotions that surround the event without letting them complete overtake your mind. When you can get close enough without being overwhelmed, you know you are in the right spot.

Honestly, it takes some significant practice and a dedication to work through the hard stuff. There's actually no telling you what will precisely happen when you continually do this exercise but the point is that major pains and concerns will release from you over a period of time. That in of itself is what makes the whole journey worthwhile.

The secondary benefit is that you get to unravel your past which allows you to come back into the present moment.

So make an effort to start the healing process by doing the shadow work necessary. Yes it will be scary at times, but it could really help you in the long run.

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Making "golden" Mistakes

By Evan Sanders

Don't fall completely apart when you fail. Instead, build yourself a new story.

Failure can be one of the most brutal things you will ever experience. It's hard to throw yourself fully into something and suffer the consequences of it not working out. But this post is much more than about failure. This past is about another critical component in the route towards success.

This is about making mistakes.

Making mistakes is part of life and good lord do we make al to of them. Fact is all of us have made numerous mistakes which become the events that shape our lives. Mistakes and disasters go side by side. Most of the time though our mistakes are on a much lesser scale. However, they are just as crucial to our growth and development as all out failure in becoming someone better.

While you can learn a whole lot from seeing things work you usually are going to learn the most from seeing things not work. Take Edison for example. Edison tried to invent the light bulb over 1,000 times and never succeeded. When he was asked what he learned from failing so much, he simply replied that he had found over a thousand ways not to make a light bulb. That's called learning from your mistakes.

What truly made Edison an innovator is that he didn't allow his past mistakes to define what he could do in this moment. He knew that he would learn from all that he had tried and continued down the path of trying to invent the light bulb. Eventually he did and because of his determination and perseverance he illuminated the world.

We all mess up from time to time, that's inevitable. We are going to have moments where we fail to be ourselves and who we are capable of being. We are going to be "outside of ourselves" sometimes. That's fine and it's a completely natural part of life. The only thing to avoid is to turn these mistakes into our failures as a person. Then, when you become a failure, things get really hard to recover from.

So how can you really stop this from happening?

Own your mistakes. Take full responsibility for them. Know that your mistakes are a natural part of life and that they don't have to be things that completely destroy your character. When you own your mistakes, to yourself and to others, you are free from guilt.

We should expect better out of ourselves than to cower away by not taking responsibility. We created the problems now we have got to do what's critical to fix them. Take ownership. If you have hurt someone else then it is even more important to own up to what you have done and fix it. It doesn't matter how embarrassed you are or how scared you are, fix it.

Be the best person you can be. Own your path.

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With Every Level There's A New Devil

By Evan Sanders

There's an huge challenge that faces dreamers.

The thing that makes dreamers and goal seekers so unique is their ability to see the extraordinary in the ordinary and what is possible for themselves and the world. The concept of living a mediocre life is just about as good as death for them and they feel the deep desire inside of them to go against the grain. Time and time again they travel upstream against the massive forces of society to see something that only exists in their mind.

Dreamers are faced with an incredible difficult decision to make: follow the crowd or decide to lead everyone on a path towards something greater.

There is another unique challenge that dreamers face. Every single time someone in this world tries to bring something new and unique into it society tries to rip them apart as best as they can. They rip an tear at those who see something different and will do anything to try to bring them down.

But the elemental question still applies for people that are steaming ahead to create a grand future for everyone else, "Do I continue on regardless of the feedback or do I conform with the mass majority?"

There's only one decision to be made.

If you would like to do something that hasn't ever been done you've got to leave the pack on your own and try things that have never been tried. In spite of any doubt that may exist in your mind, you have to move forward. Move forward with spirit and a deep sense of grit. When it is all cleared up, if the tide of life is on your side, you'll end up changing the world in one way or another.

Naturally as they start to shake some trees criticism will come.

Despite all of this, continue to move forward and love creating for others. To give up on your dreams for the sake of being safe is not living a life at all.

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Our Lives Are Similar To Magnets

By Evan Sanders

You can't always be positive.

If you were positive all of the time, how could people really trust what you were saying? Wouldn't they trust you a little bit more if they heard about your struggles and defeats?

Life is wonderfully balanced. So to be truly positive you really have to experience serious negatives as well. That's simply the way in which the world works. As Carl Jung once said, "The brighter the light the darker the shadow." I think that really applies here as well.

Throughout my life and on the journey of all of this personal discovery, I have discovered what it truly means to be out in this world to help other people create lives that they can be passionate about and proud of.

For years and years I've been writing down the stories of my life and putting them out there for the world to see so maybe someone would resonate with something that I've gone through and not have to suffer through the same type of event. These stories don't always start off positive, but they can certainly end on a more lighthearted note.

I have really dark moments and days at times. In fact, the more I love with everything I have, the more I feel pain, hurt, loss, and everything else that can make your hands tremble when it comes around. I feel those things now more than I ever have before. The softening of a cold heart so many years ago has exposed it to be naked, exposed, and gives it the capability to feel everything intensely.

So sometimes, writing something that's optimistic, is essentially me fighting as hard as I'm able to to keep a positive outlook on life. Some days are a lot harder than others. Some days, I feel just like I can hardly breath.

If we can all take these negative situations of life and find a way to bring them out into the light we can truly create inspiring stories with them. We are all struggling, so to share your story with the world is to share a common story among all of us.

I struggle hard. And with that, I love hard.

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The Benefits Couples Could Get After Couples Counseling

By Sharon Weeks

Love will always be sweeter when still new but there will always be rough days for couples that often lead for some to break up. They are those who did not take and can no longer stand being hurt and to hurt their partners. This could be fixable yet some just decided to end it and try for a better one.

For couples especially to married ones once you feel like the relationship is no longer working then might as well try couples counseling Mt pleasant. Marriage is a holy one therefore you must not do anything that may ruin it. If there is something you can do to save the relationship then you should do it immediately before it became too late.

Having children do not guarantee us that the memories we built will never be broken because now a day it has proven to be untrue because even married ones do split up. Of course it is sad to know that some went that way. Knowing these things that should be a foundation of a relationship will help you improve your own by following them.

In a relationship it is indeed important to understand each other. There would always be things that the two of you do not have in common. All you must do is to respect and understand ones decision. Of course you let them understand your views but of course with gentleness.

Having sex with your partner from time to time will make you satisfied and would not look for other people to sustain your needs sexually and vice versa. This is one of the forms that will let each of the couples feel their love and affection to one another. When a couple aged they normally set aside having a time on pleasuring one another, this might be one of the reasons why.

There would always be times where we get mad to each other but if we just let them pass by not settling it first then there must be great problem in the future. Every conflict has to be solved through communication. Without this then probably you will just end up hurting each other more.

There is no love without trust. A trust must come with love at all times. If you will have doubts always in your partner then probably you will just end up fighting with each other. This is the common problem of couples that ends those exchanging hurtful words. Therefore when you love there must be your trust on it.

They said that once a man already got the woman then giving efforts mostly end too. This kind of thinking is probably not a good one since one thing that keeps the heat of the relationship is by exchanging efforts. You have to make your partner feel that they are given importance and love even through all the years.

Make time with your family. They deserve your most precious time that is why you should give your majority time to them. It is understandable that you have to deal with some things in order for the family to survive in terms of daily expenses yet you too have to make an effort by at least talking and spending moments with them when you come home especially to your kids.

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The Various True Lover Tests

By Sharon Weeks

Almost everybody has gotten into a feeling that cannot be easily explained. This is a feeling of much excitement laced with euphoria. This is especially vibrant when you think of having a talk with that person that you constantly think of. You may at one time feel as if she is reciprocating this feeling but you keep on questioning it. The true lover tests will help us differentiate between love and other feelings.

A number of times those in strong relationships find that their love is decreasing. This is so since most affairs are built on infatuation rather than on the basis of true love. The feeling of true love is always mutual. This makes the wishes and expectations of lovers bear no fruit in many occasions. This becomes the reason why every day a divorce case is being filed in our courts of law.

To understand whether what you are feeling is love or not, consider the long term expectations of that feeling. A number of theories show true love to contain passion, intimacy and commitment. Not balancing these three can end up straining the relationship. People who are fond of each other but fall short on intimacy may not be able to live long in their relationship.

True love should flourish as time goes by. If relationship dwindles as time elapses then that is not love. Mostly a relationship that does not stand the test of time is more of infatuation than love. Therefore one should carefully analyze the trend as time goes by. This test gives a chance to quit when necessary.

In many online sites there are tests that are available. Here there a preset questions with choices to pick as answers. After answering the questions, results are displayed. Even though the credibility of these results maybe disputed, they give a chance for a person to think. As one supplies answer to the questions asked, he is able to analyze his feelings. This enables him to make an independent observation. This is mostly meant for entertainment purposes.

The important aspect to check is trust. This can be manifested by how secure you feel in that relationship. A person in love sees the future with his or her lover. An infatuated person will still have wishes even when in relationship. This makes such a person blind to various problems affecting them. Security threat is experienced as a result of distrust in the character. This is also due to lack of appreciating other persons value.

Genuine feeling of love gives a conducive environment to interact with the other party. The likes and dislikes are learnt as the affair grows. Anyone who claims to know his or her lover at the start of a relationship is just infatuated. This is because a lot of time and patience is required to understand each other.

Clear understanding of own personality is the first step towards attainment of true love. An individual should clearly know his areas of interest and what he does not like. A point to remember that the person you love will be your lifetime partner. One should therefore be certain of what he or she is doing.

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Tips You Can Follow On How To Successfully Study Abroad

By Sharon Weeks

A good way to learn is through experiencing the real thing. So for for all the theories and lessons that you see in the books or internet, how about going to the place and study there yourself. You can assure the quality of education that this foreign schools can give and we are sure that you will learn a lot form them.

You may have reasons on your own in studying abroad but you need to secure yourself first, be responsible enough to take care of yourself. You can follow things on how to successfully study abroad. This tips are simple to follow and this will help you a lot during your stay there.

Find a prospect country where you want to stay, and make sure that you will try to have an overview on what kind of people are living there, seasons or climate they have, and their own laws. Check if the country is safe place to live in where there are less crimes or terrorist are not usually around. Prepare your valid passport and visas for a better and easy way of traveling.

Provide copies of your itinerary, passport data page, and visas with your family and friends. They will have information about you and you can be contacted easily in case of emergency. Make sure that you have an insurance that will help you medical needs other emergency that might occur during your stay there.

Be mindful of the things will bring and evade yourself from people who are giving suspicious things to you. Bring things which are important and keep a low profile to avoid your life from being endangered from thieves. Got to the right people who are authorized agents which can help you and follow the right way in exchanging currencies.

Choose classes which will make you more involve and learn more about their culture, this is a fun way of learning things. Be mindful with the people you meet and make friends to build connections with them. Try to mimic their action so that you can blend with them from the way they eat and a lot more.

If you start to feel comfortable with your new home, you may start exploring and visiting other sites or spots in the area. You may ask for advice for the locals there and your found friends to provide ideas on where you can go. Language barrier is common but do not let it hold yo down since this will make your communications skills much better in no time.

Consider applying for internship or even a part time job on your free time because this can make you earn money and a good way of training yourself. This can help you finding a good job there in the future, if you decide to stay longer. Spend the money you have wisely to avoid shortage, this is important since you live on your own.

Avoid yourself from being involve into trouble and fights because you do not want to create a bad profile in there. If you missed your family, there is no worry in communicating them because there are many ways to check them. Do not think of any pressure while you are there, enjoy and savor each moment there.

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Why Is It Really Good To Study Abroad Coaching

By Sharon Weeks

Studying could sometimes be very tiresome but fun. If you study, many opportunities will be coming on your way. Many of the people really loves to study but only few really survives it. There are may factors that you need to consider when you venture your time with learning. This could actually make you or break you in the long run.

People are wondering if how does it feel to study abroad. Is it only for the intelligent people. To be honest, to study abroad coaching in another country could really be very difficult but with your interest and perseverance, it will look easy. If youre really encouraged to do it then it wont it youre intelligent or not. After all, youre studying to learn more and not to test your intelligence.

There are actually a lot of the programs offered to different kind of people. If you are diligent enough in finding these programs, you will have more chances that youll find the perfect one for you. Some of these programs are even offered for free and that is through scholarships. You may apply for it and if you pass, youll be worry free.

Keep in mind that living in a different country needs to be studied. Each countries have their own rules and regulations you must abide. They also have their own culture and tradition. If youre really interested with it, youll surely be able to learn them as fast as you can. Dont forget the language as well.

The next thing to think of is studying the place. This one is really your main goal, so make sure that you do your best to learn something. With the language barrier, they may be a little difficult but getting used to it will surely be good to you. If you have the opportunity or time to study the countrys language then that would be better.

After having experience all new things in the other country, it would certainly change your life for the better. You will be able to compare your country to another country and somehow be able to see if which one is better. It could really widen your thoughts on different aspects of living.

After being able to learn from the other country, you can also give back to your own country or the organization or institute that let you experienced the scholarship. This may not be necessary but as a courtesy, many scholars do this favor. Its also a way of saying thank you to the people who have helped you achieve what you have today.

When you return to your native land, keep in mind that you have to help them since you are more knowledgeable than them. Make it clear that certain things are not the same in your place and to other countries. With this, you will be able to coach them on specific things you have encounter in the other countries.

Achieving something in life would really require effort and time. If youre willing give up those things for your success, then you may study abroad and learn something very essential in life. After all, life is short for you to just stay on where you are right now.

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