How To Get Kids To Listen Without Becoming Frustrated

By Carolyn Long


Children don't always hear what you have to say, and this can be extremely frustrating for the average parents. However, one has to realize that they are not ignoring you on purpose. They are developing and they are adapting to their surroundings. Parents have to treat them as a child and learn more about how to get kids to listen.

Of course, this can be difficult when you are calling your child for dinner or you are trying to talk to them and they are busy in their own world. A lot of parents naturally become impatient and start to raise their voice. This is not very helpful because it can lead to a lot of conflict in the home. Some children become fearful of the parents.

Of course, there are times when a child is playing mind games. This is when they are going to ignore you. Every child goes through this phase, looking for attention or testing the parent. This is more psychological and it is not going to help when you raise your voice because they won't respond.

If you do raise your voice when they are focusing with something else, they may still not hear what you are saying. It is not helpful for them or for you. It will create a lot of chaos in the home not only for you, but also for the entire family. You may create a rift between you and the child. The child may also become fearful of you, and this is something that you obviously don't want.

It is also important not to exercise that sense of control or power over your child. A lot of parents have authority and children grow up becoming fearful of authority figures. Parents will just tell their kids to do as they say. You should be ready for a response. When a child questions an order or command, you need to come back with a reasonable answer.

Have compassion for your child and treat them as if you would want to be treated at that age. It is not always easy when you are growing up and struggling in this way. You need to think of the right way to come up with the most appropriate words which they would use with their friends. In this way you would be connecting with them on their level, and creating a stronger bond.

Of course, there are also kids who have a tough time listening in general because of something like autism. When they are busy with something that are completely focused, and you may not even be able to distract them. Parents need to learn how to talk to a child like this. It is not easy and you may become impatient at time, so this is something you have to keep under control.

When you have something like autism, for example, you may not be able to hear anything from the outside world. You are so focused on what you are doing that your social skills take a back seat. Parents need to patient. They need to be able to sit with their child and communicate gently with them. It is also important not to repeat because it won't help.




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